In teaching our daughters to live a consecrated life, the first step is explaining why it is important to live a life that is set apart for God. Rebellion in children and teens can sometimes be linked to the fact that they have been told over and over what to do and what not to do, but haven’t been given a reason. I remember as a child when asking why, hearing the answer “because I said so!” I found myself saying that same exact thing more than once to my own children. A time came when I finally decided that wasn’t a good enough answer. I didn’t like hearing it, and I knew it wouldn’t do any good to use that for an answer to my children either.
Let’s take the example of drinking alcohol. I grew up in a home with an alcoholic father. As a young girl, I made the decision on my own that I would never drink any type of alcohol because of what I went through with my dad and what our family was put through. When I became I Christian at the age of 14, I felt God would have me keep that commitment. I was never tempted in this area so it wasn’t an issue with me all through my teen years and even now as an adult. Over these many years I have seen a lot of heart ache due to the effects of alcohol.
When my children were small it was easy to tell them we don’t drink beer, wine or whiskey. It is in most movies and it seems there is always a relative or two that drinks and children are curious and want to know what it is and why we aren’t drinking it. As my children got older I was able to share more about the evil side of alcohol. I went into deeper details of what I went through and what I saw because of someone’s drinking.
When your children become adults, they get to choose their own convictions. I can only hope and pray that alcohol won’t be a part of their life, but they still have the choice. I do realize that my kids didn’t have first hand experience of the effects of alcohol, only by my teaching. In our society today, drinking has been built up to be a very modern, fun and socially accepted practice even among strong Christians.
Within a minute I could list of 10 things that alcohol does to destroy lives. (And personally, I can’t even name one positive thing about it.) When I read and study on the subject of holiness and living a consecrated life, alcohol just doesn’t fit into that picture for me. The risk is just way too high to even take a chance at having a destroyed life. For me, it isn’t worth that risk even if it doesn’t affect me. I learned a long time ago, that life isn’t just about my desires, I have others in my life that could be affected by my choices.
This may sound like a study on alcohol, but you can take any issue and put it up against the scriptures and look at it and study it and come up with a reason as to why or why not you partake in something. Living a holy and consecrated life takes much thought and a commitment each and every day on the hundreds of decisions we make. They are decisions that could change the course of our future and our children’s future.
Jim and I have been married for 31 years. I can’t believe it! What a wonderful life it has been. We served in full-time ministry for the first 20 years of our marriage. The last eleven years we have had our own business and the Lord has blessed so much in so many ways. I am very thankful for those years that God used us in full-time ministry, but what a joy it has been to serve Him in this new journey.
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